<p id="par-1_54">Sean “Diddy” Combs has few celebrity defenders, but Ray-J has made several <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/ray-j-thinks-diddy-will-found-innocent-faster-expected-free-diddy.html/">comments in his defense</a>. He possibly feels comfortable having his name in connection with Combs because he claims he never went to any of <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/sean-diddy-combs-described-menu-parties-enough-ladies-around.html/">his now-notorious parties</a>. Ray-J shared his theory as to why he never nabbed an invite to Combs “freak-offs.”</p>
<h2 class="wp-block-heading" id="h-ray-j-speculated-about-why-he-wasn-t-invited-to-any-of-sean-diddy-combs-parties">Ray-J speculated about why he wasn’t invited to any of Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs’ parties</h2>
<p id="par-2_42">For nearly 30 years, Combs hosted parties for <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/celebrities-scrambling-cover-stories-diddys-parties-publicist-claims.html/">rich and famous guests</a> at his homes. While they were once hot ticket events, they fell under scrutiny after his arrest in 2024. Some <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/celebrities-left-diddys-parties-avoid-happened-5-a-m-source-claimed.html/">attendees made allegations</a> of sexual abuse and misconduct against Combs.</p>
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<p id="par-3_58">The parties were a veritable who’s who of Hollywood elite, but Ray-J said he never managed to score an invite. While reflecting on the fact that a woman he knew in childhood didn’t recognize him, Ray-J wondered if this was because he was attractive. He thought this could also be why Combs never invited him to his parties.</p>
<p id="par-4_43">“Just like when they keep talking about the freakoffs with Diddy, I’m like yo (I) ain’t ever got invited to the ‘Freak-Offs, and that’s when it hit me, I’m ugly,” he said on a livestream, per <a target="_blank" href="https://www.complex.com/music/a/treyalston/ray-j-diddy-freak-offs-ugly" rel="noreferrer noopener">Complex</a>. “It hit me that I’m unattractive.”</p>
<h2 class="wp-block-heading" id="h-he-had-requirements-for-some-of-his-guests">He had requirements for some of his guests</h2>
<p id="par-5_41">While it’s not clear if Combs had requirements for the looks of all attendees, he allegedly had a <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/sean-diddy-combs-parties-reportedly-dress-code-women-exceptions.html/">strict dress code for women</a>. His former party planner wouldn’t let in female guests if they weren’t dressed in accordance with the rules.</p>
<p id="par-6_38">“No pants. No jeans. No flat shoes,” she told the <a target="_blank" href="https://nypost.com/2024/10/29/us-news/diddys-alleged-requirements-for-girls-at-freak-off-sex-parties/" rel="noreferrer noopener">New York Post</a>. “Every girl had to wear a party dress, preferably very short, just enough to cover her butt cheeks, but no longer than mid-thigh. Cleavage showing.” </p>
<p id="par-7_11">She claimed that Combs wanted to see every woman in stilettos.</p>
<p id="par-8_21">“And every single one of them had to be wearing stilettos,” she said. “That one, there was no exception: high stilettos.”</p>
<p id="par-9_20">The planner also said that beyond the dress code, Combs had specifications for the way women at his parties looked.</p>
<p id="par-10_23">“No flab, no cellulite. Not overly pierced or tattooed. No short hair,” she said. “And the girls had to be young and hot.”</p>
<p id="par-11_19">She claimed that they even went so far as to weigh some women before they could enter the party.</p>
<h2 class="wp-block-heading" id="h-ray-j-once-said-sean-diddy-combs-case-was-not-the-public-s-business">Ray-J once said Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs’ case was not the public’s business</h2>
<p id="par-12_31">Ray-J said he long viewed Combs as an inspiration in the entertainment industry. He felt <a href="https://www.cheatsheet.com/news/ray-j-says-haunted-public-now-knows-diddy-private-business.html/">dismayed by the highly publicized trial</a>, even though he didn’t approve of some of his actions.</p>
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<p id="par-13_92">“The Diddy s***, it haunts me, because it’s like … now we know what this dude, and now we’re in his private business,” in a clip posted to <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/reel/DNzHDL4WPVp/" rel="noreferrer noopener">The Shade Room</a>. “… Diddy didn’t teach us how to have freak-offs, you know? He didn’t teach us that. He taught us other things in business and how to be. And how to represent the culture. Now, he did some weird s***. And it wasn’t OK. At the end of the day, y’all, it’s crazy. Asking people what they’re doing in their private time?”</p>
<p id="par-14_10">He believed that Combs’ private life was his own business.</p>